On the evening of April 20, 2014, Ryan passed away at home with his family. Ryan faced his three year battle with cholangiocarcinoma with a positive attitude and incredible strength. His sense of humor put others at ease and could always put a smile on everyone’s face. He was always willing to help others in need, even when faced with challenges of his own. Ryan’s kind and caring nature towards young and old alike, has touched the lives of many.
Ryan was born on August 22, 1968 in Denver, Colorado to Maxine and Brent Tofflemire. He grew up in Dumont, Colorado with his sister, Marcyne and his brother, Kelly. Ryan went on the earn his BA from Rocky Mountain College in Billings and an MA from the University of Northern Colorado in Greeley. Ryan met his wife, Patti, at Rocky in 1989 and they were married in Greeley on June 5, 1993. Ryan and Patti were blessed with two wonderful sons, Cody, 14, and Justin, 12. They moved from Ft. Morgan, Colorado to Helena in 2004.
Ryan worked for Child and Family Services for 20 years in Colorado and Montana. His dedication to children and their families was both admired and respected by his fellow co workers.
In his spare time, Ryan enjoyed hunting, fishing, horseback riding, playing cards, and spending time with his family. He will be missed by all.
Ryan is survived by his wife, Patti; his two sons, Cody and Justin; his parents, Brent and Maxine Tofflemire; his sister, Marcy (Scott) Johnson; his brother, Kelly (Leigh Anne) Tofflemire; and numerous nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, and cousins.
Ryan was preceded in death by his grandparents Harold and Mabel Horsley, and Lewis and Tillie Tofflemire.
Thank you to Dr. Weiner and the nurses and staff at the Cancer Treatment Center, Hospice of St. Peter’s, and the Helena community for their amazing care and support.
The family will receive friends from 4:00 to 6:00 p.m. on Wednesday, April 23rd at Anderson Stevenson Wilke Funeral Home, 3750 N. Montana Ave., Helena, 59602. There will be a funeral service at 1:00 p.m. on Thursday, April 24th, at Anderson Stevenson Wilke Funeral Home with burial to follow at Forestvale Cemetery. Immediately following in the social hall of the funeral home will be a reception. An account has been set up at Wells Fargo in the name of Tofflemire Benefit Account to help support Ryan’s family.
Service Schedule
Family and Friends Service
4:00 to 6:00 p.m.
Wednesday April 23, 2014
Anderson Stevenson Wilke Funeral Home
3750 N. Montana Ave.
Helena, Montana 59602
Funeral Service
1:00 p.m.
Thursday April 24, 2014
Anderson Stevenson Wilke Funeral Home
3750 N. Montana Ave.
Helena, Montana 59602
Burial
Immediately following funeral service
Thursday April 24, 2014
Forestvale Cemetery
490 Forestvale Rd
Helena, Montana 59602
Reception
Immediately following graveside service
Thursday April 24, 2014
Anderson Stevenson Wilke Funeral Home
3750 N. Montana Ave
Helena, Montana 59602
Service Schedule
Family and Friends Service
4:00 to 6:00 p.m.
Wednesday April 23, 2014
Anderson Stevenson Wilke Funeral Home
3750 N. Montana Ave.
Helena, Montana 59602
Funeral Service
1:00 p.m.
Thursday April 24, 2014
Anderson Stevenson Wilke Funeral Home
3750 N. Montana Ave.
Helena, Montana 59602
Burial
Immediately following funeral service
Thursday April 24, 2014
Forestvale Cemetery
490 Forestvale Rd
Helena, Montana 59602
Reception
Immediately following graveside service
Thursday April 24, 2014
Anderson Stevenson Wilke Funeral Home
3750 N. Montana Ave
Helena, Montana 59602
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Pat Daughenbaugh says
Patty and family,
I was saddened to hear about the passing of Ryan. Ryan was the BEST Program Bureau Chief for CI and he will be greatly missed. Ryan will be remembered by all as being honest, up front, a great leader, a loyal friend and a hard worker! May he rest in peace.
God Bless you and your family,
Pat
Patsy Oberweiser says
I am deeply sorry for your loss, Ryan was my supervisor at DFS until I retired, my thoughts and prayers for you and his family.
Mary Anderson says
I am so saddened for your family. Ryan’s character, concern for others, and gratitude for his family and friends was displayed every day in Justin and Cody. I hope it is a comfort to all of you the boys are truly their father’ sons. Thank you, Patty and Ryan, for showing them courage and perseverance. They have been an example and blessing to all of us at CRA. Know that thoughts and prayers are coming your way.
Love,
Mary Anderson
Marty and Bonnie Clark says
Patty and family, so sorry to read about Ryan’s death. He was always up to a cribbage game with Marty and to visit while we spent our time doing treatment at cancer treatment center. We will be sad to think that he wasn’t able to beat the disease. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. He was always so upbeat even the last time we say him in march. 🙁
Heidi Lutz says
Dear Patti, Cody & Justin,
Ryan was a kind and supportive friend, co-worker & supervisor to me. I will miss him very much & feel blessed to have known him.
He loved you all deeply & is now helping to watch over you from heaven.
You are in my thoughts & prayers, Heidi
Dierk and Mary Brown says
We are writing this from Clear Creek County, Colorado where Ryan grew up, and while our memories of this fine young man have to do with his childhood, we have maintained a friendship with his parents over time. Brent and Max have always been full of stories about their cherished son and his family to keep us up to date. Perhaps our strongest memory of Ryan as a teenager was watching him play basketball with a brace on one knee. He had a talent for the sport, and the brace never slowed him down! We believe he showed the same determination as an employee of the state of Montana, a husband, and a father. His fight against the dread disease that took his life was remarkable. Our hearts go out to the Tofflemeier family. Much love from Dierk, Mary, Furman and Marty
Chris Gould says
I went to high school with Ryan and always respected him as a man of integrity, warmth and concern for those around him. Although I haven’t seen him for years, I will miss him.
Lynne' Ray says
Ryan was my older cousin and memories of him consisted of one huge smile that was always on his face and his awareness of others. I didn’t get to see him very much after moving to Oklahoma years ago but will hold fond memories of him in my heart . Praying for God’s love to be felt in a tangible way by the family during this time. ❤
Mary Reynolds says
Dear Patti, Cody & Justin,
I had the pleasure of working with Ryan for many years during his time with Montana CFS. He was always very supportive and complimentary. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time. May you find some comfort in knowing he is now at peace and will be shining down on you all, and will be with you wherever you go.
Mary
L. Thomas says
Please accept my condolences for loss of your son/husband/brother/ father.
Psalms 68:19, 20
May Jehovah God carry you through this time of sadness and may His wonderful gift of the resurrection inspire you to endure until, Ryan, returns in the Paradise.
Judith Blue Wilson says
Max & Brent –
It’s the hardest loss – a child before a parent. At first, the daily reminders are unbearably sad; but eventually the happy & fun memories outnumber the sad. And, the grandkids are your lifeline to their Dad. Take care of each other. Would love to see you if you are in Colorado.
Katie Stiff Andrzejewski says
I also went to high school with Ryan in Idaho Springs, CO [I was in Kelly’s class and my sister was in Ryan’s class]. We were so sorry to hear of his passing and are thinking of the Tofflemire family. Ryan was such a warm, caring, kind person — even back in high school! — and I was not surprised at all to read that he made a career in Child and Family Services. I have no doubt that he helped and inspired many people during his 45 years. I am thinking of your entire family and saying a prayer, especially for Ryan’s children. Please know that your Dad was a special person and he will always be looking out for you. With deepest condolences, Katie, Meg & Chip Stiff
Lisa Nehl says
I am so sorry for your loss! I am glad I had the opportunity to know Ryan – I worked w/him at Child and Family Services. May your memories help you through this difficult time. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers! Take care and God Bless!!