Harriet M. Hunthausen passed away on Mother’s Day and Ascension Sunday, May 8, 2016, just 3 weeks shy of her 90th birthday, surrounded by her 9 children and loving husband. She was born in Anaconda, MT on June 1, 1926, the youngest of seven children of William Herbert and Mary Margaret (Wegreen) Wetherill. She was born at home, delivered by her sister Annie, who was 15 years old at the time. She was left an orphan at 8 years old when her mother died, and she went to live in an orphanage in Butte. For most of high school she lived with her sister Annie and family, in Anaconda.
Harriet met Tony Hunthausen while skating at the Anaconda Commons, on the day that she won the girls’ speed skating competition. She was in the 6th grade and he was in the 7th. They dated some in high school, and it mostly consisted of him walking her home after her shift as an usher at the Washoe movie theater. Besides thinking she was very cute, he knew she was afraid of the dark, and she was appreciative that he did not tease her about this. After high school, Tony joined the Army, and Harriet decided to enter the convent. She had always wanted to be a nurse, and when she was told she had to be a teacher, she decided to respectfully leave the convent, and entered nursing school in Helena at St. John’s Hospital and Carroll College. When Tony came back from WWII, he started college at MSU in Bozeman. When he learned that Harriet was in nursing school in Helena, instead of taking his usual bus route from Bozeman directly to Anaconda, he took a detour to go through Helena, and the rest is history. Harriet graduated from nursing school in the spring of 1949, and she and Tony were married. This September 10th would have been their 67th wedding anniversary.
Although Harriet loved the profession of nursing, and recited the “Nurses’ Prayer” from memory, her life’s work was to raise her 9 children in a loving environment. She was ever-present and always available to her children. She was the first one up in the morning and last one to bed at night. She was a whole person, as she could be as silly and zany as anyone with her songs, dancing, jokes, and laughter, as well as serious and solemn (as with her prayer) and everything in between. Mostly, she just loved to serve others and she wanted you to feel welcome, understood, and loved. In 2009 she was awarded Carroll College’s Distinguished Alumni Award for her support of Carroll, and specifically the Carroll nursing program.
Harriet was a person of exceptional faith. Most of us don’t particularly welcome others approaching us about what we consider to be private matters of faith. But Harriet had a disarming way of inviting you into conversations that left you seeking the spiritual realms of your life more deeply. She had a close, personal relationship with God.
She was a person of exceptional hope. In spite of the very difficult hand she was dealt in her early life, she exuded hope in her consistent, upbeat demeanor and ever-positive consideration of others’ motives and behavior, always mindful of the circumstances and context, always giving others the benefit of the doubt.
Harriet was a person of exceptional compassion and love. She was always reaching to the margins by befriending and embracing the lonely, shut-ins, the socially awkward, and mentally ill. She figured out how to connect with people that the rest of us are too afraid to approach or incapable of developing a real human relationship with. Her faith, hope and love were all born of a deep prayer life that had its roots in a childhood of adversity that left her an orphan for a good part of her early years. To find her way through such challenging circumstances that often break others down, she committed to her faith and found it to be an immense source of inspiration, strength and joy. From these humble beginnings she became as powerful a life force as we’ve ever known and most of us ever will.
Her children were the light of her life and she let us know it to the end. Always full of praise for each of us, always building us up and letting us know we were special. Even when she wasn’t able to remember who we were toward the end, she would cradle our face in her hands and tell us how handsome or beautiful we were and what wonderful gifts we have to offer. When you have a mom like that you’re whole life, you come to appreciate how special it is and how beautifully it equips you for this life.
Harriet was a faithful member of Sts. Cyril and Methodius Catholic parish for 56 years, and served in many capacities. She lived the gospel, and had a special ability to minister to those most vulnerable. She visited people who were somehow in need, or just someone who had been on her mind, and took them her homemade caramels. She also was a prolific note and card writer up until the last 2-3 years, as her vision failed. Not only did she write to her children, loved ones, and people of the parish, she often wrote to people she didn’t know, but whom she read about in the paper, or heard a story that touched her, and she wanted to offer encouragement. Her delicious caramels were known far and wide, as she offered them to those who visited her home, were going through a difficult time, or served her in any way. Every day she would strive to love others unconditionally, regardless of who they were, or their station in life, and offering her caramels often opened the door for others to let her love them. We called it her Caramel Ministry. Many, many people can say that they know they were one of Harriet’s “loved ones”.
She was preceded in death by her parents, brothers Alfred, Harold, and Ernie; sisters Irene, Annie, Elsie; nephews Harold and Robert, niece Evelyn, and several other nieces and nephews. She was also preceded in death by her parents-in-law Tony and Edna, brothers-in law Art, Pat, John, sister-in-law Donna, son-in-law Ken, as well as several nieces and nephews. Harriet had many wonderful friends who have gone before her and many still here on earth.
Harriet is survived by her husband Tony, and nine children, Tony (Jan), Kathleen, Bill (Maureen), Mary (Dean), Denny (Michelle), Paula, Andy (Pam), John (Amy), and Dan (Keeley). She is also survived by 25 grandchildren: Scott (Clara), Drew, Chelsea, Ryan, Katie, LeTisha (Simon), Deanne, Will, Sarah (Luke), Julie, John, Hannah, Andy, Seth, Noah, Kris (Janet), Derek (Laura), Amanda, Max, Ben, Allie, Dutchie, Cassidy, Luther, and Klara; and 10 great-grandchildren: Jackson, Oliver, Gracie, Sylas, Lucy, Henry, Matthew, Paul, Tristan, and Emily. She is also survived by her sister Narlene, niece Harriet, nephews John and Kaare Lee, and many extended members of the Wetherill family. She is also survived by brothers-in-law Dutch/Raymond, Jack/John, and sisters-in-law Marie, Edna, and Jeanne, and many beloved members of the Hunthausen, Walsh, and Stergar families.
Anderson Stevenson Wilke funeral home is in charge of arrangements. Harriet’s funeral Mass will be held at the Cathedral of St. Helena on July 8, 2016. This is to allow for her large family to make travel arrangements. Following the funeral Mass, there will be a reception at Brondel Hall in the Cathedral, followed by burial in St. Ann’s Cemetery in East Helena. Donations can be made to the Carroll College Nursing Program in Harriet’s name.
Harriet’s family would like to thank St. Peter’s Hospice, and all of the wonderful health care providers she had over the years. We would also like to thank all of the priests, staff, and faithful members of Sts. Cyril and Methodius Catholic parish over the years. Mom, although we miss you terribly, we know where you are, and we’ll always remember where we’re coming from. Thank you for living your life as an exceptional Christ-like example. “Love each other, forgive each other, and take care of each other. Bless, bless, bless.”
Please visit below to offer a condolence to the family or to share a memory of Harriet.
Service Schedule
Vigil
6:30 p.m.
Tuesday May 10, 2016
Anderson Stevenson Wilke Funeral Home
3750 N. Montana Ave
Helena, Montana 59602
Funeral Mass
12:00 p.m.
Friday July 8, 2016
Cathedral of St. Helena
530 N. Ewing Street
Helena, Montana 59601
Reception
Following the Mass
Friday July 8, 2016
Brondel Center
530 N. Ewing St.
Helena, Montana 59601
Burial
Following the Reception
Friday July 8, 2016
St. Ann's Cemetery
East Helena, Montana 59635
Service Schedule
Vigil
6:30 p.m.
Tuesday May 10, 2016
Anderson Stevenson Wilke Funeral Home
3750 N. Montana Ave
Helena, Montana 59602
Funeral Mass
12:00 p.m.
Friday July 8, 2016
Cathedral of St. Helena
530 N. Ewing Street
Helena, Montana 59601
Reception
Following the Mass
Friday July 8, 2016
Brondel Center
530 N. Ewing St.
Helena, Montana 59601
Burial
Following the Reception
Friday July 8, 2016
St. Ann's Cemetery
East Helena, Montana 59635
Maureen Oelkers says
Harriett was the angel on earth that I absolutely loved to run into anywhere, anytime and always. Gods great gain and our loss on this earth. Love & Prayers to the entire Hunthausen family. Loren & Maureen Oelkers
Alice & Bill Dove says
Harriet was a lovely lady, and will be missed by many. Our Love & sympathy to the Hunthausen family. Bill & Alice Dove
John (Jug) Jones and Girls says
Harriet was an incredible and generous lady. It was a joy growing up on Groschell St. and when the combination Jones/Hunthausen boys needed something or got into trouble (usually the Hunthausen’s fault), Harriet was the adult we turned to. She always had a story and a lesson that stuck and made sense. One of the highlights of my adult life was when my four girls met Harriet. Of course, she bribed them with caramels, but they loved her from the moment she said hello to them. There is a quote that goes something like, ” A single act of kindness throws roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees!” – above all else, that is what Harriet did – through her children, friends, our neighborhood and arguably every person she ever met. Our family’s lives were touched and made much happier because of Harriet and the entire Hunthausen family!
Arlyne Chvilicek says
Prayer to all of the family, she was a special lady and always made me feel special. She will be missed.
Mary and Marty Mouat says
The world will miss this wonderful lady. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Hugs from Marty and Mary Mouat
Judy Kuhl says
A very admired woman – always with a smile and a positive outlook. She radiated God’s light and love to all of us. My sincere condolences to the family.
Kitty Logan says
Aunt Harriet was a kind, thoughtful and gracious lady. I have wonderful memories of trips to East Helena with Gram. I still treasure her beautiful and inspiring cards she sent me over the years. Hugs to all the Hunthausens!!!
Ron Darlington says
Love you, Dan.
Jill Miller says
Prayers to her family, I was lucky enough to enjoy some of the beautiful people that are part of her family and some great memories! Love Jill Miller
Tina Tillo says
Kathleen, My thoughts and prayers are with you and all your family.
Big Hugs,
Tina
Shaun Donovan says
When Tony and I were coming of age in the late 60’s and early 70’s I had many occasions to see Harriet (always “Mrs. Hunthausen” to me) in the eye of various storms of family activity. She was invariably calm, upbeat and willing to laugh at the inevitable teasing from her offspring or Tony Sr. There was seemingly no issue that could not be resolved by love, faith and hard work. She was a great example not only to her own family but to their friends as well. Those who loved her will mourn her loss for years but benefit from her generous spirit forever.
Doug Baker says
Andy and Family,
Sorry for the loss of your mom, grandmother, and matriarch of the Hunthausen Family! I will always remember the way Andy spoke of his family (while working with him on SEARCH in Missoula)- parents, siblings, and the love that was abundant in his life! It’s clearly a legacy that has carried on and will continue to impact the lives of many more!
Candie Cain says
To the Hunthausen family,
Harriet was such a lovely faithful and faith-filled woman who touched the lives of so many people and I feel blessed to be one of those individuals. I never saw Harriet that I didn’t get a warm smile, a gentle hug and a kiss on the check. I am so very sorry for you loss, but take comfort knowing that Harriet is at peace and has joined the company of angels with our eternal Father. My thoughts, prayers and sympathy are with you now and always.
Glen J Cuchine says
I’d like to add my thoughts and prayers to all the others expressed here and elsewhere. Growing up in the west end East Helena neighborhood brought all close to the ever present smile that we came to associate with Harriet. Her kind words and many acts of kindness will not be forgotten. My hope is that you all will recall the many happy memories of this beautiful matriarch.
Bill Brosmer says
To the Hunthausen Family:
My sympathy to you on the passing of Harriet. May your sorrow lessen with each passing day and may your fond memories of her, sustain you in the years to come.
Peace
Teresa Lightbody says
To the Hunthausen Family,
It was always such a treat to see Harriet. She would NEVER miss the opportunity to grab my hand, look me in the eye and tell me how much Jesus loved me. She warmed my heart every time. Even the later years when she may not have been able to call me by name any longer she would still have something lovely to say. She exemplified the love God wants us all to have for one another. What a special woman.
Love to you all, Teresa & Jay Lightbody
Lingenfelters says
We’re so sorry to hear of your loss. Cherish your memories of her until you see her again.
God Bless-
JT & Michelle Lingenfelter
Sharon Nyland says
This earth has surely lost an angel in Harriet. Any time I think of Harriet or saw her I always got a feeling of peace and grace. My prayers are with all of the Hunthausen families.
Dorothy Kleffner says
I have fond memories of Harriet (Mrs. Hunthausen to me) during my growing up years.
I am sorry for your loss, I wish her a peaceful rest.
David Hoff says
Hello Hunthausen family, I was home some years ago visiting and while driving down the street remembering days gone bye, I recognized this couple out for a walk. Sorry Tony, but you were at least a block behind Harriet. I pulled up next to Harriet and it It took me a minute to get her attention. When she recognized me, a smile came to her face and said “you’re Don Hoff’s boy, how are you David?” Tony caught up and your parents invited me in, we talked for some time about our families, one memory after another. We shared a wonderful conversation and I am glad I have that memory, you are all in my thoughts.
Deb Bushnell says
Andy and Pam, so sorry to hear of your mom’s passing Andy. I didn’t know her but after reading her obituary, she sounds like a very sweet and loving woman. Our thoughts and prayers are with you both and your entire family.
Deb and Wayne Bushnell
Beth Ries says
Prayers to the whole family. Ryan, she was a true light during our days at Carroll. Thank you for sharing her with me. Kathleen, thank God you got to spend time with her these last few years.
Bill Dolan says
Mrs. Hunthausen was one of the kindest and most spiritual people I have ever met. I always felt I was close to God when I was in her presence. I was always amazed with her calmness. Whether it was the Jones’, Seratis’, or Dolans’, causing problems, Mrs. Hunthausen always had the answer. We were all so lucky to have grown up in East Helena and I miss my friends and their families. My thoughts and prayers to Mr. Hunthausen and family. Thanks for your friendship over the years Denny. There will never be another Mrs. Hunthausen.
John Moore says
Andy, Dan and family – so sorry for your loss. May peace come with time and fond memories.
Monica (Lukenbill) Loar says
Andy
Im thinking and praying for you and your entire family right now. May you ALWAYS take comfort in the many many amazing memories you have and can share to keep your beautiful mom with you forever. Hugs to you!
Tim Murray says
To the Hunthausen Family,
On behalf of my parents, Al & Colleen Murray, and all eleven of my brothers and sisters, I want to express our condolences on the loss of your mother and sister-in-law, Harriet, and to tell you how central she is to so many memories the Murray family has of both Anaconda and Helena. She and your Dad, and your extended family, have been involved in virtually every aspect of our lives.
My personal best memory was the time I participated in assisting your Mom when she made “Sweetie Pies” in her kitchen in East Helena. She perfected the combination of chocolate cookies and icing.
To your Dad, a fellow Anaconda Copperhead teammate of my father, you are in our thoughts and prayers in this loss. To all of you, we hope that the pain of the current moment is rapidly replaced by the many wonderful memories of your Mom. She was so special to the Church and community but she was your mom – what a gift!
All the best.
Tim Murray
Sharon Pelletier says
Andy and family, The loss of a parent is a lonely difficult thing. But look in the mirror, look in your soul, and use your memories. She’s never truly gone… Take Care….Sharon Pelletier
Shirley (Nordstrom) McKnight says
My condolences to the family. Have fond memories of Mrs. Hunthausen (as I always called her) and the Hunthausen family as we all grew up in East Helena and attended Sts Cyrils and Methodious church and school. When in East Helena in the past few years and at the church, she would greet me with her warm smile. Driving down Groschell Street when visiting in East Helena a major landmark for me was the home of the Hunthausen’s. As life passes we treasure memories of the families that were part of our lives as we grew up. Mrs. Hunthausen was a very lovely lady.
Sandi Coyle Benson says
Kathleen, Know you are all in my thoughts and prayers. May the days ahead bring you peace and understanding.
Rose miller says
Harriet was a good friend of my mother Katie poepping and she used to take her to church every day after my dad died. One day they came out and the car would not start Harriet lifted the hood up and had my mother push the gas with her cane until it started. Harriet was a very special friend to me and my mother she will be dearly missed.
Mary Runkel says
Harriet was a blessing to everyone she met. What a lovely warm smile always!
Kathleen you and your family are in my prayers at this time.
Tom Mulvaney says
Reading Harriet’s beautifully written obituary brought back many wonderful memories of her, her husband Tony, and their children.
In recent years, I would run into Tony and Harriet at the East Helena post office every so often, and we would share a quick visit and chuckle. I would sometimes get updates on their offspring, several of whom I had the privilege of teaching and coaching in junior high.
You see, when I think of Harriet, I think of the incredible job she and Tony did in raising her nine children. Reading about her charitable ministries with the many needy people in our area was new to me but certainly not surprising.
And just icing on the cake of an incredible life so well-lived!
Stephen Mullen says
Harriet was a very good friend of my mother and a joy to be around. All of my siblings remember her fondly. She was certainly one of God’s Good People. My condolences to the family.
Anne (Felstet) Dartman says
Dearest Hunthausen Family,
You all are in my thoughts and prayers today as you gather to honor your wonderful Mom, Grandma, wife. . . She embodied love and gave it freely. She will be missed. I can’t be there today, but Dan will be to pass along our love and condolences. God bless!